Sensual massage is about the loving pleasure of touching and being touched, arousing and being aroused, exploring and being explored.
Sensual massage is an important way of keeping the fire of passion alight in a relationship. It is not only an enjoyable, unhurried and relaxing way of spending time together but it also encourages trust and confidence.
Our sexuality/sensuality is one of the main drivers and motivators in life. Sex, love and sensuality should be an happy threesome but often they get separated and live lonely separate lives. It is important not to overlook our sensual selves and I believe it is equally important that couples should indulge in sensual massage. It is fun, relaxing and very intimate; what is more it can lead to a great finale!
Everything I’ve said about giving massage applies to full body sensual massage but really that is only the beginning and there are now some excellent DVDs and books on the subject but here some general advice about giving your partner a great massage sensual and loving.
The first this is, that sensuality and eroticism are good. It is nothing to feel ashamed or doubtful about. We are all sensual beings. Giving your partner a sensual/erotic massage should be a deeply loving experience and a very relaxing thing to do. There should be no pressure and no expectation. Just indulge yourselves and enjoy that special time with your partner. It can be experienced in many different ways and is an intensely personal thing but what might be sensual or erotic for one might be a complete turnoff for another. This is important to remember when performing sensual massage.
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Sensual body massage
The first thing to do when giving your partner a sensual body massage is to explore carefully but confidently and respond to any feedback or response. Don’t be afraid to ask “is that okay?” or “do you want me to press harder?” And of course if you are the receiver, don’t be afraid to say “that feels a little uncomfortable” or “that feels really nice.” What’s at stake here, is a person’s feelings. Be kind during massage and never abrupt – remember you are performing the act of seduction through your hands. What is more, it is about demonstrating ones love for another.
Art of Sensual Massage
The art of sensual massage is not about having sexual intercourse; your aim is to purely enjoy the act creating sensual touch and enjoying being touched; to give and to receive and if you end up enjoying great sex at the end, that is great. Massage sensual should always leave your partner wanting more, keep them hanging on until neither of your can hold back. The art lies in turning your partner on, so that they want you badly and then keeping them waiting a little longer. Don't be in a hurry to have an orgasm, especially if you're a male because for you, it will basically be all over. The art of sensual massage takes time, practice and patience.
Sexual Difficulties?
If either of you are having
difficulties sexually i.e. reaching an orgasm,
it is especially important not to make sexual intercourse the aim of the massage. Or if your partner is stressed out, getting turned on might be difficult. Just show your love and care by not expecting anything - just give. And if your partner falls asleep during the massage, let them sleep. Don't be disappointed, your massage is obviously very relaxing and they need the sleep. There will always be another time.
Full body sensual massage
Always consider all the senses when performing full body sensual massage and always take your time. Make sure the room is warm and not brightly lit; use candles or firelight for illumination and use incense for sweet fragrance. Use an exotic
massage oil
with a fragrance you both like. It is best if you can bath or shower first. Play gentle music, not too loud and not upbeat; choose something which suits the mood. Be imaginative, use soft fabrics like silk or soft fake fur to run over your partner’s body. You can also use sex toys to heighten the excitement. Be imaginative but don't be in a hurry with your imagination. Be sensitive to the needs and likes of your partner, pander to his or her pleasure and in return get them to pander to your desire.
Remember that sometimes less is more. Tease but don't frustrate, draw your partner to you slowly and so be patient. You might be hungry and ready for the main course but your partner might only be tucking into the starter. Go slowly, deliberately and guage the feedback. If you know your partner well it is easy to see what works and what does not. Watch and listen to your partner for signs of arousal; their breathing becoming quicker and louder is often a good sign but quietness doesn't necessarily mean they have gone off the boil, they might just be focusing on the pleasure. If you think your partner is getting aroused, keep doing what you are doing but if he or she goes off the boil, try something else but whatever you do, don't get frustrated and undo all your patient work. The art of seduction involves time, lots of it, so make sure your partner enjoys your attention above anything else - your reward will come.
Genital massage is sexual massage and not really sensual massage because its going straight to erongenous zone. Of course it should a part of sensual massage but not all that it consists of. Massage of the genitals will likely cause arousal but they are not the centre of what arouses us. The centre of what arouses us is our mind and that is the key to sensual massage. If you massage the mind, you will open up the body. Don’t just think that massaging the genitals will turn someone on. If they are nervous or unsure, it might well turn them right off. In fact I would go so far as to say, massage the genitals last; keep your partner waiting and keep them wanting. Massage near and around the erogenous zones but don’t touch until your partner is fully relaxed and hungry for more. Check out
Sensual Massage For Men
and really light his fire.
What is it that turns them on??Let your imagination flow.
Use your whole body to massage, not just your hands. Use your forearms, your legs, your buttocks and chest to massage your partner; be inventive. Use toys or restraints, this is not therapeutic massage; excite your partners senses. Massage is all about contact and the more skin to skin contact the better but make the strokes long and tender, light and lingering. Make sure you have enough oil to make the movements easily slide but not too much. Make your contact soft and your strokes long and slow.
Don’t force anything; no matter how much it might turn you on; it is a sure way to turn your partner off if they don’t like it. If there is something you want but your partner does not want, don’t put pressure on them, especially in the bedroom. Discuss it later and discuss it like adults, not sulkily or moodily. There is a wealth of information out there in books, DVDs and on the Internet to help couples know about sex and their bodies.
Sensual Touch
Use your touch lightly and carefully, make sure your hands and arms are relaxed, and you are in a comfortable position to massage. If you are heavy handed or awkward, it won't feel like sensual touch and will be a turn off, not a turn on. Take your time in exploring and finding out about your sensuality and that of your partner; it is essential for a healthy and long lasting relationship. Build trust and build confidence and keep alive a loving, sexy, fulfilling relationship.
Intimacy
Massage does not however have to be sensual. It can be very intimate without being sexual. To find out more read
Intimacy of Massage
Also if you want to go one step forward with sensual massage read Tantric Massage and find out the secrets of the ancient art of tantra for amazing erotic sensual massage.
Sensual Body Massage
Sensual body massage could be likened to visiting the fairground with your loved one. So much to see and do with so many potential excitements in store and yet you don’t want to jump right in and go on the best rides first, otherwise everything else will seem an anti-climax. You want to look around, take in the sights and sounds, explore and see what interests both you and your loved one most. What one might enjoy, the other might not, so it is important to find rides you are both going to enjoy. Some rides maybe frightening for one or both of you but once you’ve been on some less frightening rides, the really scary ones might seem enticing.
Sensual massage is the same; so many potential excitements in store but you don’t want to go straight to the most exciting parts first, you need to explore and see what interests you both first. Find out what you both will enjoy and take it from there. This is especially so in a new relationship where you are still both finding out about each other.
When you offer to massage your partner for the first time, there will be high expectation, excitement and a little apprehension too. To a lot of people, massage does not come easy and so it is a skill you have to learn and develop. Clumsy massage does not feel good, so you need to be careful and not overdo it. Best thing is to take it easy, do the simple things like stroking first.
Stroking
Stroking may well be the easiest thing to do in massage but it is also easy to get it wrong. Probably those who have cats will be good at stroking because a cat will let you know when you are doing it wrong and cats love stroking. The important thing for most people is not to keep doing the same thing over and over, you need to vary your strokes and you need to follow the contour of the body. What is more, you need to have your hand relaxed and pliable. You also need to have hands that are smooth. Builder’s hands are not good for massage unless they are well taken care of, so the use of hand cream regularly to soften them a little if you are going to try massage. Nothing worse than being massaged by what feels like a brick!
Stroking will give you confidence to do more but if you are stroking the legs, it is natural to delve in between the legs and hit the spot! The tendency might be to arrive at the genitals and start massaging there but my advice is to avoid the area; like the best ride at the fairground, save it to near the end! Or if you do want to explore and play there, only stay a while and move on to massage elsewhere. Don’t be in a hurry to arouse, be patient, and let your partner enjoy lots of pleasure of different kinds. This is especially important advice for men, who might be bursting to go on the best ride but once you’ve been there, your inclination might diminish, however your lady will be hungry for more.
Preparation for massage
Warmth: One of the most important aspects when it comes to giving massage is that the room is warm. When a person is receiving massage and lying doing nothing for half and hour up to an hour, their body temperature will drop because they are inactive. As the person giving the massage however, you will become warmer because you are doing all the work. If you’ve got a gas or electric fire, you can of course always turn it up and down but if there is only central heating, you need to make sure the room is extra warm before you start.Comfort: The bed is not the best place to give massage because it is too soft. Better to take a thick duvet into the living room and massage on the floor. However, the floor is the coolest place because warm air rises, so this is another reason to have the room really warm.Quiet: It goes without saying that to do massage there should be no kids around to disturb you but there also needs to be no mobile phone ringing either. They must be turned to silent because the urge to answer a ringing phone might be too great and spoil the occasion. It is of course good to have music but make sure it is only background music and music both of you like otherwise it will begin to irritate and spoil the session for one of you.
Fragrant: When you massage, it is important to consider all the senses. You can buy oils especially for sensual and erotic massage but it is okay to use any good quality oil that smells good to both of you. Don’t assume what you like, your partner will too. Also use incense sticks or heat some fragrant oil in an oil burner (a few drops of pure essential oil in a little water is great) to make the room smell good, especially if you’ve recently been cooking in the house. Scent can be very seductive, so a good reason to create a lovely smell in the room.
Full body sensual massage
The best massage is when someone has massaged all of your body. Of course in therapeutic massage, the practitioner will not massage the genitals but in sensual massage for your partner, you can literally massage everywhere. So you need to take your time and don’t be in a hurry. However, if your partner is so aroused by your touching and can’t wait, then don’t frustrate them by concentrating your attention on their feet. Unless of course they love sensual foot massage.
Back: If you really want to treat your partner and give them a full body sensual massage, then it is best you start on their back; work your way down to their feet and then ask them to turn over. Use a good quality massage oil but if you have none to hand, you can use baby oil. Don’t use lotions or massage soaps as they are absorbed too quickly. Make sure you have a good amount on one hand and then rub the oil in both hands before you start. If you start on their back, your massage will help them to relax. Make sure you use good firm pressure but of course not too hard, and use long steady strokes up down their back, side to side and even diagonally. Experiment using your forearm but take it slowly. Buttocks: The buttocks are a wonderful place to massage and feel really good when being massaged. You can use a lot of pressure here and you can also use your elbow but be careful; use slow circling movements. Add more oil, if you feel your hands getting dry. You can knead the buttocks like bread dough if you know how. It is an erotic place to massage, so spend some time here but don’t be too quick to slide between the legs. You might make a quick visit but you can return here later.
The legs: Like the back, use long languid movements, up and down, side to side. It is wonderful to have one’s legs massaged. They are often tired and tense and we don’t know it. Sometimes it is good to bend the legs to massage them; be inventive, take your time.
Body to body massage: When giving full body sensual massage, you can massage with any part of your body; don’t restrict yourself to using just hands. A wonderful way to massage is body against body; chest against back and chest against chest, and in fact any other way you can think of. As long as you support yourself so you don’t crush them, that’s fine.
The feet: Some people adore having their feet massaged, some people cannot stand it. Some people find feet very sensual and others not so. You need to find out what feels good to your partner. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and don’t get upset if something you’re doing doesn’t feel good. Do what feels good and most likely if it feels good to you, it will feel good to your partner.
Head & face: With your partner on their back and assuming they are naked, they are open and in full trust of you. It’s best to either start on the face but the face is difficult to massage, so if you are not certain, you can simply stroke their forehead and temples. For this it is best to kneel behind their head and this is another reason why using the bed is not so good. Maybe you can slowly massage their scalp with firm pressure? Scalp massage is a wonderful thing to receive. If you do want to massage their face, use mainly the soft fleshy bit of your finger tips and don’t use too much oil here.
Chest & tummy: If it is a woman being massaged, when it comes to massaging her chest, sweep your hands around her breasts down the sides and through the middle of them and slowly close up on them without fully massaging them; save that till later. Instead let your hands flow down her body; use slow soft movements around the tummy and let your fingers skim over the pubic hair before moving on to massage the hips and upper legs. The important thing is to play with the body, entice the body, seduce the body but don’t make love to it – yet!
The point about sensual massage is its sensuality, not its sexuality. Being sensual always leaves something in store, something to be desired. A sensual woman is not a naked woman; it’s a woman who knows how to use what she’s got to full effect. She can drive men wild without ever taking her clothes off. The genitals and breasts: The best advice here, if you need it, is to go slowly. If your relationship is a relatively new one or you are still uncertain about what your partner likes, don’t be afraid to ask them to show you. Men have to learn about a woman’s body and vice versa. If you’re doing your best but doing it all wrong, you won’t get the desired result. Check for responses, breathing and ask if it all goes quiet but not too often. You’ll know if you’re getting it right but might not know if you’re not.
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Everything I’ve said about giving massage applies to full body sensual massage but really that is only the beginning and there are now some excellent DVDs and books on the subject but here some general advice about giving your partner a great massage sensual and loving.
The first this is, that sensuality and eroticism are good. It is nothing to feel ashamed or doubtful about. We are all sensual beings. Giving your partner a sensual/erotic massage should be a deeply loving experience and a very relaxing thing to do. There should be no pressure and no expectation. Just indulge yourselves and enjoy that special time with your partner. It can be experienced in many different ways and is an intensely personal thing but what might be sensual or erotic for one might be a complete turnoff for another. This is important to remember when performing sensual massage.
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