http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html LOVE IS NOT WORD BUT AN ACTION Why is love not what we expect it to be? Not a blog about massage but a series of stories about love or at least the notion of love. The Love Myth. en-us Massage therapy Mon, 05 Jan 2009 12:42:35 GMT Mon, 05 Jan 2009 12:42:35 GMT massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/sensual-massage.html Sensual massage is good for a healthy relationship, learn to give your a partner a full body sensual massage. Mon, 05 Jan 2009 12:10:27 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/breast-massage.html BREAST MASSAGE: Why women should have breast massage for healthy breasts. Mon, 05 Jan 2009 12:05:14 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/intimacy.html The importance of intimacy of touch and how massage can help save relationships and build them too. 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Wed, 26 Nov 2008 01:58:04 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/worldwide-massage.html Worldwide massage: Links to places worldwide where you can get massage or other such treatments.Book flights & accommodation; travel & visa information. Sat, 22 Nov 2008 12:05:15 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#Chapter-Two---Love-Changes-Everything.-Part-3. As a consequence of Angels trouble at school, Joe had a lot of contact with her mother Flora. Joe felt for the girl and was well aware of her mothers previous abused past and wanted to help as much as he could. He even went as far as calling at their home when Flora had rung him in a deeply distressed state. Flora began to depend upon Joe emotionally and he felt himself being drawn into her life. Flora had been an attractive lady, with long wavy red hair, green eyes and a slim figure but the difficulties of the years had lined her face and given her a constant frown but still when she smiled, a glint of her previous vigour shone through. Joe wanted to help her get back on her feet and put the past behind her and he also wanted to help Angel too. His desire to help them drew him and Flora together and then one day he gave her his home number. He knew that professionally he should not do this but once done it was done and soon she began to call him at home on a regular basis. Trudy remonstrated with him, saying he was getting too close the Flora and Angel. Its not professional, she had said in a rebuking tone but Joe shrugged off her complaints. He knew he liked Flora but he had no intention at being emotionally involved. At least that is what he told himself. Then one day he happened to be passing Floras home and decided on the spur of the moment to call in. He found Flora in a sad mood. She made him tea and he sat of the sofa to drink with her. She started unburdening herself to him and at one point started to cry. It was the moment he compromised his role as a head teacher and let her put his head on his shoulder. In a moment of weakness he put his arm around her and she sank into his arms. It didnt go any further than that but he had let his guard down and let Flora cross the barrier from which there is no return for her. Flora needed someone to comfort her and protect her from her bad feelings. She saw Joe as a man who could do that and from that moment on, wanted to be with him. He had showed her tenderness and concern, something she had not experienced in many years. She considered that his calling on her was a signal from him that he felt the same way as her. Her calls to his mobile and his home became more frequent, sometimes with excuses she had simply made up for the purpose of calling. Trudy began to get suspicious and accused her husband of having an affair with Flora. He became defensive and tried to defend Floras actions but this only fuelled his wifes suspicions. Tue, 18 Nov 2008 04:50:10 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#Chapter-Two---Love-Changes-Everything.-Part-1. Its probably a true fact that everybody falls in love at least once in their lives. Some people fall in love many times and some people think they have fallen in love but are not sure. The thing about falling in love is that once it happens you will never be the same person again. It is not possible to fall in love, fall out of love and then pretend it didnt happen because there is no going back. Once the notion of love hits you, you are forever hooked, no matter how short the period or feeling of love exists. Idyllic teenage freedom can be shattered by the encounter with love. Young friendships can be broken by the arrival for one of that special person; the one they are to fall in love with. And long term adult relationships can be brought tumbling down when the trust bound up in love is broken. There is not going back once this feeling strikes. It changes you, the way you feel and it can even change the way you see life. People have dropped out of school, split from their families, run away from home, broken deep friendships and some have committed crime all for the sake of this notion of love. This feeling that they have reached the pinnacle of their existence and met the person life has destined for them, is indeed an overpowering Lives are turned upside down by chance encounters or by catching the one youve had your eye on for years. In one respect, it is a kind of madness which strikes people when this feeling comes upon them. They can be going about their ordinary sedate lives, then suddenly Bang! Theyre almost dancing in the street. Mood is greatly enhanced and they are singing in public, forgetting to eat, daydreaming when they should be working, buying crazy gifts and writing endless letters. They exhibit characteristics which they never exhibited before and sometimes revert to an almost childlike way of being. Compulsive behaviours begin and sometimes even dangerous ones appear. What is more, some fall in love with the wrong person or for the wrong reason. Marriages are wrecked, even good ones because one of the parties goes astray or receives the misplaced love of another. Tue, 18 Nov 2008 04:50:10 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#Chapter-Two---Love-Changes-Everything.-Part-2. Joe and Trudy had been married for fourteen years. Both were in the teaching profession. Joe was a head teacher and Trudy a deputy head but at different schools. They have three children: Matthew who is twelve, James who is nine and Ruth who is seven. Joe and Trudy used to go to church regularly until a year ago; now only Trudy goes alone. The problem started for Joe at school. Hed been a teacher for twenty years and had become head teacher at his school. A new girl arrived at school during the middle of the term. Her name was Angel and she was twelve years old. Her mother Flora had been in an abusive relationship and had been forced to move to a new home away from the town where she had previously lived with her boyfriend. So it was that Angel arrived at Joes school but Angel was no angel and soon became one of Joes problem children. She skipped school, showed disrespect to teachers and got into fights with other pupils. It was clear to Joe that Angel had a lot of emotional problems caused by her previous home life. It was suspected that her father may have abused her sexually but if she had been, she would never say. As a consequence of Angels trouble at school, Joe had a lot of contact with her mother Flora. Joe felt for the girl and was well aware of her mothers previous abused past and wanted to help as much as he could. He even went as far as calling at their home when Flora had rung him in a deeply distressed state. Flora began to depend upon Joe emotionally and he felt himself being drawn into her life. Flora had been an attractive lady, with long wavy red hair, green eyes and a slim figure but the difficulties of the years had lined her face and given her a constant frown but still when she smiled, a glint of her previous vigour shone through. Joe wanted to help her get back on her feet and put the past behind her and he also wanted to help Angel too. Tue, 18 Nov 2008 04:50:10 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/the-human-body.html THE HUMAN BODY. Human body muscles and structure. Facts about your body and why massage is good for you. 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Thu, 23 Oct 2008 13:48:32 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/holistic-approach.html I take an holistic approach to massage therapy Sun, 19 Oct 2008 21:54:16 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-8. The connection all these couples had was that when they met, they fell in love but life brought changes and the fell out of love. If Gina had examined her thoughts really closely, she would have discovered that she didnt love Terry anymore, at least not as before. She wanted too because that is what she always hoped for. She never wanted to fall out of love with him but her body was telling her otherwise. The fact is the body does not lie, even if the thoughts try too. With Toby and Jayne, his affair changed everything for Jayne but for Toby he had already changed. Becoming a firefighter changed him; he became stronger, more confident and encountered new experiences. He saw his wife as changing too but for the wrong reasons; she was putting on weight and deep down he did not like it. They loved each other at the start but came to a point where they were really only living together for the sake of the children. As for Julie and Martin their attempts at expanding their sex life got them into trouble. Julie was not willing to go so far and Martin was not able to recognize that his wifes desire did not match his own. He might never have introduced a third party into their relationship but he had gone behind Julies back to explore the possibility and was found out. That was enough for her. She had been badly been let down before by a man, she wasnt prepared to let it happen again or even come near to happening. So could it have been possible to avoid these marriage breakdowns or were they just inevitable? The difficulty that they faced, indeed all of us face are the changes that take place during our lives. Probably there has never been a previous time in history when people could expect to see so many changes take place in their lives. The twentieth century has seen the greatest growth and modernisation of all and curiously enough these changes were brought about by the two world wars; which at the time caused so much mass destruction and great loss of life. Yet they were to galvanise nations into taking great steps forward with industrialization and technological advances, and also bring about many more personal freedoms. Sat, 18 Oct 2008 08:02:34 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-10. These are major radical sociological changes which turned everything on its head. It should be no wonder that relationships were to become turned upside down too. No longer were people compelled to stay together and no longer was adultery or pregnancy outside of marriage considered abhorrent. Laws were changed to reflect the growing need in society for greater self determination but with greater self determination came the need for greater responsibility too. However, this need for greater personal responsibility was difficult to enforce because people have the right to choose whether to be or not. Now it is possible for a woman to get pregnant without any financial means to being able to support the child; the State will do it. And a man can quit a relationship just because he is tired of it, without any concern for his responsibility to his partner or child. These significant actions are considered almost normal in a society which has in an effort to bring about greater personal freedom, failed to instill the need for personal responsibility at the same time. Our society has become rich and at the same time become lax. We have great personal freedom but little personal responsibility if we so choose. We are permitted to let our emotions rule our head, our thoughts and to think that love is all that matters. We can so easily fall in love, maybe get married, have children and yet find it so difficult to maintain the relationship This in the long run cannot be good for the individual, the individuals children and society as a whole. Sat, 18 Oct 2008 08:02:34 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-9. The First World War, the most terrible of all wars, was largely responsible for bringing about the beginning of the end to the rigid class system in Britain and also fuelled the Womens Suffragette movement which after a great struggle achieved the vote in 1918 to women over the age of 30 who were householders, the wives of householders, occupiers of property with an annual rent of 5, and graduates of British universities but it was not until 1928 that they received full voting equality with men. The Second World War was another great human tragedy and yet was to bring about great technological advances including the jet and rocket engines. It also brought many women into the work place to replace the men at war and where they realised they could do the same work as men. Women began to realise they had another value in society, not just in the home as wife and mother. This was another major step along the way to women gaining parity with men in society. Later the feminist movement was to form to exert even more pressure for true equality in society for women. In the course of less than half a century, society was turned upside down, with roles changing and new expectations being formed. There were radical changes in society including the National Assistance Act of 1948 which was the birth of our Welfare State and a strong determination to rebuild the country after the war. This new sense of national pride brought about new economic growth which meant that consecutive generations could expect not only greater wealth and health care but greater freedom too. The old establishments of the monarchy, the church and even the family were beginning to loosen their hold on peoples lives. Attitudes towards marriage were changing, as were attitudes towards abortion and homosexuality. People were finding new freedoms, never before experienced. No longer were couples for better or worse bound together for life in marriage, for it became acceptable to be able to opt out if things went bad. No longer were wives expected to be chained to the kitchen sink; they could have lives outside the home and earn their own money. Women also gained greater opportunities to climb the business ladder and be financially independent. Not only were they catching up with men, they were in some areas beginning to overtake them. For the first time in history, women were actually finding themselves not only equal to men but often on top too. Sat, 18 Oct 2008 08:02:34 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/golf-fitness.html Golf fitness is essential to playing good golf, it requires injury free strength, flexibility and focus. Mon, 13 Oct 2008 02:21:44 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/back-pain.html BACK PAIN: Causes of back pain. Preventing back problems and how to get relief. How to strengthen your back. Sun, 12 Oct 2008 05:26:06 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/essential-oils.html Essential oils are created by extracting the essence from certain plants Sun, 12 Oct 2008 05:17:23 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/which-massage.html Choosing which massage is best for you is an important decision. Find out which is the best. Sun, 12 Oct 2008 05:00:35 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-6. Julie was an only child, sheltered and protected from life by her loving parents. Sexually she was a late starter, not having her first sexual encounter until she was twenty-four and that was to her future husband Paul. She had fallen deeply in love with Paul too but he was ten years older than her and had been married previously. He wasnt a kind man and placed great demands on her both domestically and in the bedroom. Although she was able to be there for him as and when domestically, she couldnt cope with his demands in the bedroom. He wanted oral sex and she didnt. She felt weak with him and he felt dominant. When she resisted he would shout at her and insult her, saying she was inadequate; and this would extend to other areas of their life too. If his meal was not to his satisfaction he would get angry and this anger would simmer for days. She would try to placate him and do what she could to calm him but this only seemed to put fuel onto his fire. He saw her gentleness as weakness and saw this as something he could exploit. Then at the merest mistake he would fly into a rage, verbally abusing her. She wanted to shout back at him but was afraid of his terrible anger. Julie felt degraded and humiliated and Paul felt empowered. Afterwards he would buy her flowers and tell her how much he loved her and for a while Julie accepted his played out guilt but it took her four years until she could get up the courage to leave him. With Martin however, it was different. He was a gentle man who loved Julie very much but his sexual desires were something Julie was not prepared for. At first it was just bedroom talk and once she felt she could trust Martin, that he was not going to dominate and humiliate her, she began to feel comfortable with expressing her sexual fantasies to him. Strangely enough, despite the abuse she had experienced with Paul, her fantasy was to be tied up and for her partner to have sex with her, pretending to take her without her consent. Of course in Julies mind this was to be done in a loving relationship, where her consent would always be given. For Martin this was a wonderful experience to try and they would act out this pretend rape but he would never hurt her or abuse her. He did however want to have oral sex with her but she would not let him. Julies difficulty with oral sex came from her parents who were very religious and always warned her as a child and teenager about the sins of the flesh which for them included oral sex. There negative attitudes were deeply entrenched in her subconscious. Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:52:10 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-5. Coping with change. The difficulty both these couples have experienced is the same one life changes. We all know that things change but often these changes seem to catch us unawares. As children we grow and change dramatically and as teenagers equally so. And although we might stop growing upwards around about twenty, we continue to grow in other ways and we continue to change. We have different life experiences and different demands placed upon us. Our lifestyles and our working patterns change; we meet new people and encounter new experiences; we see things we have never seen before and encounter new pressures. We take on new responsibilities and even take risks that are new to us. With all this, our attitudes begin to change and of course we are getting older. We may find we have less time to do the things we used to enjoy doing and life becomes all work with little time for pleasure. Of course most changes happen slowly and we dont see them coming. We dont recognise ourselves changing or the other person in our life changing, at least not for some time. Then we get the wakeup call; something happens, something is said and bang! We are looking at ourselves in the bathroom mirror, taking stock of life and wondering what has happened. Julie and Martin didnt see the changes taking place either, at least not till it was too late. Julie is forty-three and Martin is thirty-nine. Theyve been married for eight years. It is both their second marriage. Julie had one child by her first marriage and Martin had no children. Together they had another child, Jasmine who is now four. Julie had been in an abusive marriage before she met Martin and she saw him as her rescuer. It took a long while for their sex life to get going but when she got her confidence back, she found a new side to herself, she hadnt felt before. Sex became great, better than any time in her previous marriage. She fell deeply in love with Martin and for a few years couldnt have been happier. Martin was an ordinary sort of guy, except that his sex drive might have been a little more than the average. When he first met Julie however, he was kind and gentle to her and didnt put too much sexual pressure on her but as the years passed, he wanted to experiment more and more with sexual fantasies. At first it was only bedroom talk and he encouraged Julie to open up about her deepest sexual fantasies. This was not easy for her because her previous husband had humiliated her in the bedroom and been cruel to her. Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:52:10 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-7. Julie and Martins problem area was understanding each others sexual boundaries. As far as Julie was concerned, being tied up and pretending to be raped was about the limit of her boundary but for Martin it was just another stage of sexual experience. He too was a late developer sexually and with his first wife, never really got going but with Julie he thought they could go much further. One night in bed, Julie happened to mention that she had once imagined what it must be like to have sex with two men. She explained to Martin that this was not really a fantasy, just curiosity. However, for Martin it set the fuse for his own imagination but his fantasy was not experiencing sex two men with one woman but two women with one man him! From this point on, he encouraged her to talk about the prospects of having a threesome. Julie expressed her distaste at this but thinking it was only bedroom talk and seeing how much it excited her husband, went along with it. As long as it was only talk, that would be fine. Then one day, she was idly using the computer when she came across an e-mail from another woman; Martin had neglected to delete it like the previous e-mails from her. Julie was shocked. The content talked about having a threesome and the woman expressed pleasure that she, Julie would be a willing partner. When confronted with this, Martin was contrite, saying that he never intended to go ahead with it even though he found the prospect exciting but never meant any harm by it. If he could have been truly honest, he would have loved to have gone ahead with it but only if Julie had been consenting. He was deeply apologetic but the damage was done. She felt she could never trust another man and six months later left him to go and look after her elderly parents. Another marriage is added to the increasing numbers of those seeking or getting divorced. Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:52:10 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/relaxation-techniques.html Relaxation techniques relieve stress and create wellbeing Fri, 10 Oct 2008 05:07:15 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-3. Gina thought of the times recently when Terry had lost his temper with her for what seemed trivial matters. It was nothing too serious but he wasnt the happy-go-lucky man she had first met. She thought of all the times he was spending at work and how often he was going out with his mates for a drink after work. She recalled the time he was flirting with her best friend. She didnt think he was having an affair however, just that he didnt seem to give her much attention these days. And then she felt guilty because he was still tender and loving in bed, at least most of the time. There were the times when hed had a few too many drinks and had just came home and fucked her. It wasnt that she had said no but that she had little say in the matter. Gina rarely refused him but there were times when she wished she did. I dont know why, maybe Im just tired, thats all. She knew it was not a satisfactory answer, after all she wasnt working full time and little Rory was out to school; although was a handful at times. Unable to get a satisfactory answer, Terry turned over, lay for a while wondering why and then fell asleep. Terry and Ginas story could be typical of many couples. Their life together had started with lots of love and passion with good and exciting sex. They had moved in together and then Rory came along. It was then they decided to get married. Their life together was the normal round of work, family, home and friends. They both have busy lives. Money is often an issue because it seems they never have enough, despite the fact they have an above average income. Like a lot of married couples, the heat of their passion starts to fade and the excitement dwindles. No more sex on the kitchen table. Pressures of work, lifes experiences, family and finance all play a part in this but there is something else too Gina doesnt feel she loves Terry anymore, at least not like she used too. Thu, 09 Oct 2008 21:29:46 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-4. Toby and Jayne are another typical couple. Toby is a firefighter and Jayne is a mortgage consultant. Hes thirty and shes twenty-seven. They got married five years ago and they have two children, Mark is four and Sandy who is two. Toby works shifts and Jayne often has to bring work home. It is tough schedule for them. Fortunately, Jaynes parents are close at hand and they can help out but life is still difficult. Toby and Jayne have known each other eight years and when they started going out, their sex life was great. Like Terry and Gina, they were bonking all the time in the early days; whenever they could get time for sex, they would. When they first met, Toby had just become a fireman and Jayne loved his uniform. She got really turned on when he came home from work and could smell smoke on him. Even if he came home tired from a hard day, Jayne was there for him, sometimes wearing sexy lingerie or something she bought from Ann Summers. He would soon forget his tiredness as Jayne poured herself over him. But that was in the past and now sex is not so good, in fact it is almost non existent. Now when he comes home after a long day fighting fires or rescuing people from crashed cars, all he wants to do is sleep and she is happy to let him. Her Ann Summers costumes are packed away in a suitcase in another room and the smell of smoke on him repels her. Things started to decline for them after he had an affair with a female firefighter. The affair started at one of their unit night-on-the-towns when Terry did not get home until 3 a.m. In fact, it began much earlier in their relationship than that. Jayne had always had a large frame and was prone to putting on weight. After Mark was born, she found it difficult to lose weight and equally after Sandy was born, and after a succession of failed diet attempts remained a lot overweight. She also had a job where she spent most of the day sitting behind at a desk or driving in her car; there was little time for real exercise. Tobys attraction to the slim and strong female firefighter began a long time before their first sexual encounter in his car and was to last another three months until Jayne found out. It was the usual scenario of denial, disbelief, anger and despair that Jayne felt and the usual sorrow and guilt which Toby felt. Jayne considered it must be because of her weight and went on a major dieting and exercise regime. She forgave him for his unfaithfulness and did her best to lose weight but their marriage never got back on track again, at least not to what is was. Now sex is about once a month. They both know they are staying together for the sake of the children. Thu, 09 Oct 2008 21:29:46 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-2. It all came to a head one night, a week later. After a week without sex, Terry was feeling horny and had started by massaging her breasts. Gina responded by massaging his penis. Soon they were naked and he was on top of her. He didnt rush things, he took his time. He could have come quite quickly if he had wanted but he wanted them both to enjoy it longer and what was more he wanted Gina to come. He kissed her neck and face tenderly; he stroked and licked her breasts. He even stopped penetrating her and moved down to give her oral sex. Gina was enjoying it; they both were. After going down on her, he put his penis back into her. Slowly at first he moved his hips upon her and Gina responded; then he picked up the pace but then he noticed that instead of her becoming more excited, more turned on; she went quiet. He couldnt wait any longer and finally he came but Gina did not. He lay there for a while breathing heavily upon her; Gina lying silently, her hands resting on his back. Eventually he moved from her, handed her some tissues and then went to the bathroom. When he returned, she was as he had left her. Terry lay on the bed next to her and sighed. For a while they lay in complete silence, each thinking about the same thing. It was Terry who raised the subject. You dont seem to come very often these days. There was a long pause. You used to. Another pause. Is there something wrong? It was a subject Gina did not want to deal with but she was well aware there was something wrong. She just didnt want to confront it because she wasnt totally sure why. She turned to face him, wanting to speak but unable to bring out any words. Dont you like our love making anymore? Now she had to speak. Yes I do. Its just. She fell silent. Just what? He leaned up onto one elbow, supporting his head. What? he said in a quiet voice. I dont know Terry. I seem to get close and then it disappears. I just cant seem to get there. You always used to. I know. She nodded her head in reply. Do you know why? The question was not an easy one to answer. Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:24:00 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#When-A-Man-Loves-A-Woman---Part-1. This is a story about Terry and Gina, and others like them. Terry and Gina have been married for three years, hes twenty-eight and shes twenty-six. Terry is an I.T. consultant and Gina is a part-time receptionist. They have one son Rory, hes five. Terry and Gina have been together six years. In every respect they are a typical modern couple, they have a nice home, two cars, foreign holidays, they love their son and they enjoy a good life. Gina rolled over in bed, pulled down her nightie and wondered why she hardly ever seemed to have an orgasm these days, at least not with Terry. Not that she was unfaithful to him, just that latterly she found it easier to have an orgasm by herself. Sometimes when she was alone in the shower, sometimes during the day when she was alone and sometimes after having sex with Terry, to finish off the business! On this particular night however, Gina had not masturbated, for her masturbating had started to upset Terry. When she had initially started to do it after sex, he hadnt minded, in fact he used to enjoy watching her. On several occasions he even fucked her again but now he was beginning to wonder why it was Gina and not him bringing herself to climax, and he was starting to ask himself questions. At first he had rationalized that Gina was tired; that Rory might hear; shed had a hard day; or she was worried about their financial situation, or something of that nature. Of course it wasnt always like this. When they first fell in love, they used to be at it like rabbits; any time, any place, anywhere. He would come home at lunchtime and fuck her in the kitchen or on the sofa. They would go out for a drive in the evening, find somewhere quiet to park up and fuck in the car. Sometimes, theyd even fuck out doors. On one occasion they had been walking his dog through the forest; it had started to rain and they took shelter under a tree. He took her there against the tree and he got angry when Sam, his dog, kept coming up to investigate. On another occasion they had started making love at the stables where she kept her horse but got disturbed by Mike, a helper around the stables, delivering some straw bails. But it wasnt all just sex, there were the romantic dinners, the long walks by the coast and the loving gifts and messages they exchanged. Love seemed to be in full bloom and with it came the passion and the sex. So times had been great in the early days but now everything seemed to have changed. Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:24:00 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/swedish-massage.html Swedish massage is the foundation of Western massage. Sat, 04 Oct 2008 08:35:38 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#Introduction-part3 The modern era has been a time of fast food, broad-band communication, entertainment on demand and instant gratification. Children quickly become adults and adults quickly become children when things do not go their way. Road rage, trolley rage and many other ways of losing it have become the norm, simply because people are losing control of their emotions and the same applies with love, which is after all just an emotion. People are falling in and out of love so easily, simply because they think that love is a good state to be in but as with every high, there is a corresponding low too and the higher you go up, the further it is to come down. Depression now is considered an illness, something which comes along like measles or influenza but most depressions dont just happen, they are caused by prolonged negative mental attitudes; a sickness of our time. However, many depressions are caused by how people view themselves and especially in relationship to other people. Many people who are depressed are so because of failed relationships or maybe a string of them and at the center of this is love. The thing we want to cherish the most can actually bring us down. Can this be right? Should this be so? I have written this, not to write off love but to show that love is not all that is cracked up to be, at least how it is expected to be. Our modern approach to love causes us many problems we could do well to live without. This doesnt mean that I dont believe in love, I do. I just wish that as a society we take a serious look at what is going on, not only in our personal lives but in our society too. It is time to move away from the all-you-need-is-love attitudes of the seventies and simply grow up. One other point, before I start getting tons of hate mail from irate John Lennon fans. I will say very honestly that I love his music; I just think his lyrics were at that time, a bit too much goo goo g'joob g'goo goo g'joob! Sat, 04 Oct 2008 01:12:08 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/spa-finder.html SPA FINDER. Online booking, spa weekends, day spa, spa venues, health spas and massage, beauty treatments, makeovers and photo shoots. Fri, 03 Oct 2008 09:12:35 GMT http://www.massage-therapy-at-deal.co.uk/Massage-therapy-blog.html#Introduction-part-2 John Lennons song, although written a little tongue-in-cheek and maybe with the help of a few substances to get his creative juices going, has sunk deep into the psyche of our culture All you need is love, he said because it sounded like a warm and cosy thing to say. In fact, he could have written all you need is cocoa and still would have sold millions because the Beatles could do no wrong. However love was the trendy word of the time, and he knew it. Like the all pervading wish to recapture the 1966 World Cup, we now have an all pervading wish to fall in love and live happily ever after. Or at least to fall in love until something better comes along. Yes, it sounds cynical but I will explain my reasoning. The notion of this need for love has become fixed in our psyche but is it really that necessary? Do we really need love that much? When so often it can change almost overnight? How many relationships begin with love and end up in near hatred or at least deep regret? Some relationships of course begin purely on a sexual level and go on from there but putting aside the need for sex, the real need is for love, no matter how it is disguised. In the Singles columns and online lonely-hearts the need for love is apparent but of course many dress it up in searching for a soul mate or friendship required - maybe more but at the heart of each search is the desire for love, to find a lasting and loving relationship. The trouble is that despite the multitude of ways to find that special one, it is no easy task and then when you do find the one well! The whole problem is that love is largely over-rated, self-centered and so fragile. Of course love exists but not in the way it is presented by so many song writers, magazine columnists and novelists. The fact is, that despite years of ever increasing personal freedom and choice, most people are no nearer to finding the love they think exists, largely because it only exists in their imagination and in the words of songs. We have grown soft in the brain because of love, because we think like John Lennons words Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be. It's easy. The reality however, is that it is not easy; in fact it is quite the opposite. Weve lived through decades of believing in love, believing it is something easy. All you have to do is find someone who you like very much and who likes you very much go to bed with them tell them I love you and them tell you the same, and hey presto! Youve got love. Fri, 03 Oct 2008 08:41:10 GMT